My Good Thing

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MY GOOD THING

Proverbs 8:21 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord. (KJV)

The peanut butter to my jelly. The  sugar to my ice tea. The Sun to my Sunkist. My Bookie. I’se Married Now (in my Sug voice).

Proverbs 8:21 speaks on the man finding his good thing, his wife. As long as we wait for the man who God has kept for us, I know God is also giving the woman a good thing. So women, we are “good things” that need to be found and not do the finding. Genesis 1:31 says, And God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. So, Travis, my husband, is my good thing.

How We Met

I met Travis in the summer of 1998 when I was 18 years old. I remember walking into New Life, and seeing Travis with his burgundy “usher” jacket on and I was in awe. For one, I was not used to seeing young men active in the church and for two, certainly not a man of color. I didn’t speak to him at that service but after that day I would drive up to New Life, which is one hour drive by the way, to their church on Sunday nights just for the opportunity to see Travis. I eventually had the opportunity to ask one of his church members about him and she must have said something because the next service he came over and spoke to me and we exchanged numbers. Our first date was to Waffle House and we had awesome conversation. We became great friends but by that fall I started college and then it became Travis Who? Even so, we continued communicating and would hang out at least once a year and remained friends through us having other relationships. In 2014, my church was having a special Easter service and giving away an Ipad  to whomever brought the most first time visitors to church. I called Travis to invite him to church and afterwards he invited me out to hear his father’s band. I don’t know if the timing finally lined up with God’s timing or if Cupid shot his arrow, but from that night forth our love budded and has continued to grow. Oh, and if you were wondering about the Ipad, I won one because Travis already owned one. Isn’t God good?

God continued to root, plant, and grow us and on September 26, 2015 we had the absolute most beautiful wedding. Instead of spending $3000 + to rent a wedding space, we designed a garden area at the house I grew up in, to have the ceremony. God blessed us even more when my church donated a tent and tables for the reception, which saved us a lot of money. It is amazing how when you are in the will of God, everything just falls in place. We designed our wedding around our unique LOVE and only invited people we felt really supported us. This began the next phase in my journey to life more abundantly.

For all the single ladies out there, I want to share with you about my list and prayers that I had for what I wanted in a husband and encourage you to do the same. After making our list and praying God’s will, we then have to wait for the ONE that he has for you. Matthew 7:7 tells us to Ask and it shall be given you, so it is good to write out our list and make it plain. This also helps us to be intentional with our prayers. I started praying for my husband before I even had a desire to be married because I knew that I wanted to be married one day just as I pray for my unborn children now. We don’t have to wait until we are in the storm to start praying. It is always best to pray before it even begins.

Before I started praying God’s will be done as far as my husband, my list included things like $$$ in his bank account, ambitious, handsome, and a good physique. This was my own list and not God’s list. As I began growing in Christ , I realized how superficial those things are and that they are not even rooted in Christ. My new list included things like a man who Love God, Fear God, Work Hard (ambition is actually rooted in Pride), and Desire is to please God. I would always end my prayer with But Lord Your Will Be Done. Ephesians 3:20 lets us know that God is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. Needless to say, God granted me a man with all of these qualities and still so much more. One testimony to my list is that I knew I did not want a man with children and I would pray that God keep him and Lo and Behold Travis does not have any children. So I encourage you to make a list of the qualities you would like in your husband and pray over it.  And then know that he will provide because his desire is that we live life more abundantly and as a Father he wants his children to be HAPPY!! I thank God daily for my Good Thing!!

I would love to hear about the qualities you have on your list. Also, remember to always enjoy the journey no matter where we are in the process.